Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Gaza

I got this email from a Canadian friend who is in Egypt right now on vacation...

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I can't tear myself away from the T.V. screen. News clips of people, normal people, desparate people, devastated people.

Mothers crying. People bleeding. Body parts. Running, running. Men grabbing people off the streets & rushing to the ambulances, and bringing more and more people. The news reporter tells me that there's no more room in the hospital for any more people.

Little Bodies wrapped in white cloth. A father breaks down crying next to the body of his dead child. I think of my own children, in bed asleep. Thank God. I should go in. I should sleep. I got up early . . . I wonder how long they've been up. I wonder if they will sleep tonight. If they will wake up tomorrow.

A mother is talking, her face is wet and tired. Her eyes are puffy. "They took away my children. This morning. I have 3 daughters and one son left. They took my 5 daughters this morning." Her daughter talks about this morning. She was telling her sisters "we're all going to die."

Five daughters. Five sisters. Five. Who will they mourn? How will they mourn? When will they mourn? They have to keep runningfrom the soulless, pilotless planes dropping randon bombs. But where to? Where do they run to?

"There's no safe place in Gaza, we've been told," an aid worker said.

I grab the remote. I want to see the coverage people are getting in Canada and the States. Is it like this? Do they see the suffering? Or is it watered-down, political collateral damage?

I'm searching for CNN. Finally, I find it. They're talking about Gaza, about the air-strikes. They're being sympathetic with the Palestinian people. They talk to an Islamic Aid Worker who's barricaded into his house. At first, I feel relief - 'they're acknowledging them - these poor forgotten people who's humanity is so rarely portrayed. But wait, I watch longer. No, no. They're rolling the same 5 clips over and over again while they talk about the attrocities: a burning building, people standing and shuffling in the street, ambulance workers gathered around somethng, a clip of the hospitals, people in the street. Again and again. No close-ups of people. No sadness, no tears, no children, no breakdowns. The rubble and the destruction of buildings, of overcrowded hospitals. Where are the pictures that I saw on the Arabic channels? What about the mother who lost her children? What about the little boy crying & trying to run? The look in their eyes? The fear? The loss?

"93 % of communication is non-verbal," I remember from my university days in psychology. Only 7% is the words that we hear.

I flip back to the Arabic channel. They are human beings and I must see their humanity. I don't know, after what I've seen today, how I'll sleep tonight. No. I know, deep down, that even if I stir for an hour or two, eventually, in the safety of my home, and the warmth of my blanket, and the company of my children, sleep will come.

How will they sleep, without safety, without shelter, without having had dinner, without knowing wen the next bomb will drop, without her daughters, without her husband, without his baby, without their their father? After they have seen today, how will they ever sleep?
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Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Guess Who?


Best questions asked by my children while playing "GUESS WHO?"

Does your person have shiny lips?
Does your person have yellow hair?
Is your person wearing a backpack?
Does your person have a pointy chin, or a round one?
Is your person wearing a t-shirt?
Is your person chocolate?
Does your person have a moo-stache?


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Monday, December 15, 2008

A word to the wise...

On Uncle Dan's first night in Minnesota we were enjoying a nice home-cooked (he's a student, a home-cooked meal is never more appreciated than by a student) and I overheard a snippet of a conversation between the LionCub and Dan which interested me. And has made me laugh out loud just about every day since.

We've been talking a lot about how to speak nicely to one another around here lately. We don't bark orders at one another, and we try not to hurt each other's feelings with the words we choose. We try to phrase things politely and be kind (you can tell I have 2 girls seeing as we call this using our "Rainbow Words").

At 2.5 years old I questioned how much my youngest daughter was assimilating any of this until I saw her lean over to Dan that first night and say, with the most serious expression on her face, like she was letting him in on some big secret...

"It not possible to be RUDE, in this family. [meaningful glare] We only be HAPPY. In. This. Family."

Then she raised her eyebrows at him a bit, as if to say "capisce?? you got it?"

Dan has behaved very nicely the whole trip.

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Tuesday, December 09, 2008

What we're looking forward to in Ottawa...

We don't have cable TV here in Minnesota. Not Minnesotans in general, I mean, us. We get 2 decent channels and a bunch of grainy ones, and like, 8 that are what we call the "God Channels" like this one where we get to see this cute little nun should we flip by...


Anyway, Ottawa brings us many indulgences when we return, like home-made food and pastries, candy from the pharmacy, FREE babysitting and dinners out. For me it's also a chance to veg once in a while, and flip through the countless channels available at my parent's house. I don't watch a lot of TV, but it's a rare indulgence I enjoy while I'm there. Today the Lamb is packing her carry-on luggage and she held up her bear, "I will need this in Ottawa" she said, "for snuggling, especially in front of the TV. Like when we watch that show about clothes, you know, the people are kind of bossy and try to get people to wear only the clothes that they like... you know that one?"

(My mom and mother-in-law can probably guess here... What do you think she's talking about?)

It took me a minute, but I believe she is talking about What Not to Wear...

She says that she "likes the lady, but not the dad." Sorry Clinton.

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