It was 6 o'clock Sunday evening and I was cooking dinner while chatting on the phone with my mother-in-law. Did you set your clock back? she asked.
What? I said.
Daylight savings time, the last weekend in October. Of course.
My first thought after that was, oh no, that means I have 3 more hours until the kids go to bed instead of 2!! Followed closely by, wow, I am totally out of touch with the world. That I am living on an entirely separate clock than everyone else all day and didn't notice? This is not normal. My sister-in-law once "lost" an entire week. It was an entire week later than she thought it was. I teased her pretty mercilessly, "how could you miss an entire week? how could you not know
the date for 7 days?" Well, I take it all back, because I barely ever know the exact date anymore. The days of week I need to know because of preschool, but other than that... I mean, I know it's
October...
Turns out that I didn't need to panic. I called a friend immediately after that and interrupted her cooking her dinner (oh housewives we are, we are) and she assured me that the hour had not in fact changed in the United States. Our buddy George W. passed a bill that means that we don't change our clocks until November 4th. I don't know why, of course, but I've given up trying to understand the leader of this nation.
I do remember hearing about this before... before... in a time when it didn't really matter to me as a Canadian resident, so it's just on the periphery of my memory. I remember that I was supremely irritated because Canada was considering following suit. Not because they were won over by the overwhelming logic of George's reasoning, or because ultimately it would suit Canadians better... No, but simply because those Americans were doing it, so why don't we do it too? Grrrr...
I honestly do forget that we aren't in Canada sometimes. The people here are nice and the climate is similar. But when I go back to Canada and I see American faces on the covers of our magazines... I get grumpy. I feel encroached upon. But I'm almost more irritated with Canadians. Why can't we stop talking about the United States, always looking over our shoulder? It's like Canada is a girl who can't take

her eyes off her ex-boyfriend, even though she's got a perfectly good man. You want to shake her and yell "why do you CARE??? what has he done for
you lately??"
I live here and I don't feel any animosity for Americans on a daily basis. At all! I feel there's lots of widespread talk in Canada about "Americans." The "Americans" are doing this, or doing that. But Canadians sometimes willingly overlook that this country is as diverse as any other. Half the people in this country didn't even vote for George W. Bush. I think we tend to overgeneralize when really we should be talking in terms of policy and government, if we want to be more accurate. Not every American sports a superior attitude, or supports the war. And most of all, be careful what you say:
my daughter is an American.
I had been telling Maymuna about the concept of flags, as symbols that represent countries. Maymuna spotted an American flag on the way home, and asked "that's the Canada flag, mommy?" No, my darling. How confusing it all is for her. Where do we belong?
That's the American flag, our flag has a big red LEAF in the middle, I told her.
Ooooh, she said. At least she's impressed for now.